Personal Childhood Web

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In terms of thinking of the people who had a positive impact on my childhood, I feel immensely blessed. My parents ensured that I constantly felt and was told how much I was loved. When I compare my childhood to so many of my students, I realize that I really never had any significant worries. I didn’t worry about whether or not I could attend a fieldtrip based on if my parents had enough money that week; I didn’t worry about whether or not I had clean clothes that fit; I didn’t worry about if we would have enough food that week or not. My mom and dad had a healthy marriage that they reflected to my sister and me and only added to the love we felt. My childhood with my parents was stable and full of love and experiences. My mom chose to leave her job as a dental hygienist when she gave birth to me, in order to stay at home and raise me and later, my sister, while my dad worked. It was never portrayed as a burden for my mom to do this and she was constantly looking for new ways to engage us in learning and experiencing new things. My parents’ continue to influence my life as they are a constant source of love and support. I know they will always be there for me and have my best interests at heart.

My grandparents were also paramount to my childhood development. All three sets of them were actively involved in my life growing up. Our family did birthdays, holidays, sports games, just about any event that elicited gathering together, as a unit. Going over to any of my grandparents’ homes meant extra spoiling: sugary drinks that weren’t allowed at home, extra goodies, later bedtimes…. My grandparents still continue to impact my life. Their wisdom influences the way I see things. They continue to join our family during special gatherings and even though I live a couple hours away from them, we maintain communication through phone calls and visits. They love me unconditionally.

Another relationship that greatly impacted my childhood was the one I had with Ms. Conrad. Ms. Conrad was my Kindergarten teacher. Her love for teaching was evidenced through her relationship with her students. Ms. Conrad was one of the reasons I decided from an early age, to become a Kindergarten teacher. She made each of her students feel individually loved and valued and made learning so much fun; I knew I wanted to be like Ms. Conrad one day! Because of the person she was and the relationship both me and my sister had with her, she later became my Godmother. My mom was actively involved in volunteering in Ms. Conrad’s classroom and my parents decided that if ever anything was to happen to them that Ms. Conrad would continue to love and provide for my sister and me. While I don’t communicate as often as I used to with her, I had lunch a couple years ago with Ms. Conrad. We talked about education and what it used to look like and how it has evolved over the years. She pulled boxes of books she had found in her basement out of her trunk to continue to contribute to the supplies she’s given my classroom. She talked about how proud she was of my heart for teaching and for my students and how she always knew I would become a teacher. I have kept all the “Conrad” labels on her books and supplies she has given me throughout the years to remind me of the teacher she was and I strive to be.

Needless to say, I am blessed. I am the individual and the teacher that I am today because of the people that poured into my life and continue to do so. These relationships motivate me to reciprocate them and invest in the lives of children. In the words of Urie Bronfenbrenner, “Somebody’s got to be crazy about that kid. That’s number one. First, last, and always” (National Scientific Council on the Developing Child, 2004, p. 1). I am so blessed that so many people in my life from childhood on were crazy about me.

 

Reference:

National Scientific Council on the Developing Child. (2004). Young children develop in an environment of relationships (Working Paper No. 1). Waltham, MA: Author. Available from Center on the Developing Child, Harvard University website http://developingchild.harvard.edu/index.php/resources/reports_and_working_papers/working_papers/wp1/

 

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An Introduction

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This is a picture of me when I was around three years old. Clearly my sense of style was struggling. My mom was one for saddle shoes and dressing my sister and me in matching, often sailor-looking outfits. All joking aside, I had a wonderful, blessed childhood.

“And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven”” (Matthew 18:2-6, English Standard Version).

My faith is very important to me, so this Scripture is convicting. My Kindergarteners remind me daily of how to have relentless faith, unabandoned love, and endless hope and resilience. I strongly believe what these verses say: we need to humble ourselves and become more like children.

During my second year teaching Kindergarten, I had a student named Kaleb. Kaleb was wise beyond his years, always happy, and such a loving, friendly kid. If I have ever had a Kindergartener “assistant,” Kaleb was that kiddo. The tenderness and compassion that he had in helping his peers was amazing and convicted me constantly to be more like Kaleb. Fast forward to five years later, Kaleb was diagnosed this year with a rare and terminal brain tumor. To say this has been one of the most heart-wrenching things to watch is an understatement. By the grace of God, Kaleb was cleared by his medical team to come back to school for half days this September, but feels too weak or sick most days to attend.

I spoke with his teacher after the first week of school and discovered that he was having a hard time. He cannot attend recess due to a stint he has and is struggling after being out of school for almost a year. I told his teacher that I would be more than willing to have him come down to my classroom during any point during the day to take a break, be my “assistant,” or just visit.

Over the years, I have discovered that providing this support builds so much confidence, empathy, and compassion in older kids who are given a sense of purpose in aiding younger children. To make a long story short, Kaleb was only at school once this week, but came down to my room while my kiddos were in music. We sat and chatted about life, goals, and family. Before he headed back to his class, I asked him if he wanted to meet my new Kindergarteners. I told my kids that this was my friend Kaleb and he was a big kid who knew all the rules and expectations about walking in the hallway and that he would be watching to see if they did as well. Then I gave him the hand of one of my little cherubs and asked him to specifically help this child. To watch the compassion and tenderness of this terminally ill child as his face lit up to help this little five year old almost immediately brought me to tears. As educators, we have so much to learn from the children placed in our lives every year. I hope that one day, I can be more like Kaleb.

Reflecting on Learning

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My most passionate hope in regards to my career in early childhood education is that I would eagerly seek to develop deep connections and relationships with children and families in order to maximize my effectiveness as a teacher and build on the strengths of each of my children and families. I want to inspire a community of learners that seeks to be compassionate, empathetic, welcoming, and eager to learn and try new things. This passion stems from my original passion of becoming a teacher. As Julie Olsen Edwards states, our job “requires adults who speak up and make a part of every day in the classroom, in the school, in the community, a statement building on the strengths of children” (Laureate Education, Inc., 2011).

I would like to thank my colleagues who have taken part in this journey alongside of me. Thank you for your transparency, for you shared experiences, for your honesty, for your encouragement, and for your love to reach children and families and invest in their lives on a daily basis.

Reference

Laureate Education, Inc. (2011). Strategies for working with diverse children: Your commitment to anti-bias work. Baltimore, MD: Author

Impacts on Early Emotional Development

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I chose the region of Latin America and the Caribbean for the reason that I have traveled here, will most likely travel here in the future, and am interested in the culture of this region. I studied Spanish during my high school and undergraduate work and would love to utilize and refine my use of this language personally. Children in this region are effected by poverty, HIV and aids, among other diseases, unhealthy development and high death rate, chronic malnutrition, low enrollment and completion of primary education programs, violence and abuse, and gender inequalities (UNICEF, 2011).

These experiences could have a profound impact on children’s development and wellbeing in that children experiencing poverty are more likely to have developmental delays (Trustees of Columbia University, 2010). Violence and abuse take an emotional toll on children during their early years of development as well. For children with emotional abuse “negative early experiences can impair children’s mental health and effect their cognitive, behavioral, social-emotional development” (Trustees of Columbia University, 2010). “The infant is embedded in relationships with others who provide the nutrition for both physical and psychological growth” (Trustees of Columbia University, 2010). Negative effects like the ones experienced by so many children of Latin America and the Caribbean can seriously affect healthy growth and development. Children experience both emotional and mental disorders due to this kind of trauma (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010). These traumas can also effect children’s trust, emotional stability, and ability to learn and retain information at a normal rate.

Personally, the more I read about the region of Latin America and the Caribbean, the more my desire grew to return to this region and help in making a positive impact on children there. It also humbled me because so often, teaching in impoverished areas, I feel overwhelmed by the effects of poverty. However, so many children in this region experience poverty as a side effect of the multiple other issues they deal with on a daily basis. Professionally, I want to continue learning about poverty and how to counteract the negative effects it so often has on my children in order to become a more effective, empathetic anti-bias educator.

Reference

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.

Trustees of Columbia University, The. (2010). National Center Center for Children Children in PovertyPoverty (NCCP). Retrieved from:http://www.nccp.org/publications/pub_882.html

UNICEF (2011). Retrieved from: http://www.unicef.org/infobycountry/

The Sexualization of Early Childhood

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This topic of sexualization in early childhood is extremely heartbreaking. Children in the world today are exposed to so many negative influences and it is devastating to think that these images and perspectives are so destructive to their healthy growth and development. “Ideally, children have direct personal experience being in and witnessing caring and affectionate relationships with family and friends. Ideally, they are nurtured by supportive and trusted adults” (Levin & Kilbourne, 2009, p. 4).  While this ideal scenario does exist, so often I observe the inverse. Families that I work with are dealing with the effects and demands of poverty, therefore, are often less actively engaged in what their children are exposed to. Video games and television have become new babysitters and substitutes for creative play and adults seem to be becoming less and less aware of what their children are being exposed to.

Unfortunately, I have observed this sexualization in early childhood in my own classroom. My classroom experience is in Kindergarten and First Grade, so I have seen four to seven year old girls singing and gyrating to songs like “I’m Too Sexy,” along with a plethora of other songs with suggestive, demoralizing lyrics. I have watched the same little girls tote lipgloss or other makeup products around because they “need it to be beautiful.” There have been precious souls in my classroom that tug on clothes (that already look more appropriate for young adults than they do for children) in order to expose bare shoulders or plunging necklines. Girls are not the only ones effected by this sexualization, however. Boys feel pressured to desperately hold back tears and “tough it out” when they are hurt. I’ve watched five year old boys on playgrounds violently take swings at each other and act out of pure aggression because of what has been modeled to them in movies and video games as “macho” or “tough.” These same precious boys pine for “girlfriends” based on “who is the prettiest.”

Implications of this on children’s healthy development are profound. “Gender role expectations and limitations are still amount the strongest messages children receive” (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010, p. 90). Because children are keen observers, constantly watching what is modeled to them, and forming perceptions based on these observations, they are quickly developing ideas of what their bodies “should” look like, what their clothes “need” to have in order to make them beautiful, and how they “have” to act in order to successfully fulfill their gender roles. This is scary, as many of these standards and expectations placed on our children are unrealistic and will never completely satisfy them, as the demand will only increase for more. I believe that as educators, our best approach is a proactive one. We need to provide an alternative perspective to children through our actions, our words, what we wear, etc. We need to emphasize beauty in diversity, in personality, in character. We need to counteract violence and aggression with love and kindness. We need to accentuate the traits and characteristics that truly make each child special and unique and constantly affirm these things.

Through studying this topic more, I have come to realize that how much this topic truly tugs at my heartstrings. Listing examples of sexualization in my classroom brought me to tears. This has truly become an epidemic in our society and we need to be light for truth and for change in our children’s lives.

References

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.

Levin, D. E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction] So sexy so soonThe new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids (pp. 1-8). New York: Ballantine Books. Retrieved from: http://dianeelevin.com/sosexysosoon/introduction.pdf

Evaluating Impacts on Professional Practice

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“-Isms” are forms of prejudice that can affect children and families, but can also have a profound influence on educators. I have been incredibly humbled throughout this program to realize how privileged and devoid of prejudice I have been throughout the majority of my life. I have become much more attune to microaggressions faced by others and how to positively affect the reversal of these prejudiced behaviors.

When I began my teaching career, however, I had just turned 23 years old and apparently looked and sounded about 16. This is when I experienced ageism. I remember several parents referring to me as “honey” or “dear” and on numerous occasions and was directly asked my age. During my second summer of teaching first grade, I eagerly headed out to Walmart to heap my cart with “back to school” supplies for my classroom. Upon filling the checkout belt with my supplies, the cashier looked quizzically at me and said, “Well, what fun project are you planning to do with all of this, dear?” Excitedly I replied that I was restocking my classroom supply bins and closets with these necessary supplies that my inner city students could not afford. The cashier’s facial expression changed quickly from curiosity to sheer shock. “You cannot be old enough to be a teacher!” I smiled and told her that my University seemed to think so and my hard work and ambition allowed me to graduate my education program a year early. Still puzzled, she continued to stare at me in disbelief. While this situation was somewhat comical, there have been other times that I remember being faced with parents who scoffed at my age or did not take me as seriously as veteran teachers. These were parents that didn’t “expect [me] to understand” being that I was young, single, and had no children of my own.

If I had chosen to allow remarks and interactions such as these to negatively affect my teaching, it would have been easy to project them onto my students. This can quickly begin to give someone an inferiority complex. Children could begin to feel a sense of similar inferiority and lack of worth due to their age. This type of influence can lead to children developing a negative perception of themselves as well as low self-esteem. Children and families might also lose respect for my authority if my age was so negatively portrayed. Families need to feel confident that regardless of my age, I am highly qualified and capable of meeting the needs of their children, as well as others in my classroom. If families were to see my age as debilitating in some way, I could not effectively cultivate effective and successful partnerships with them. As anti-bias educators, we need to establish a welcoming environment that fosters holistic acceptance in our classrooms (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010).

Reference

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.

Observing Communication

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This week, there was a book fair taking place at the school where I teach. After school one day, I volunteered to cashier during the after-school hours. In observing a mother with her two elementary-aged children (approximately ages four and six), I took note of the mother walking around with her children, pointing out various titles or characters she knew her children would appreciate or relate to. The other volunteer I was working with, Paula, is handicapped and suffers from a severe speech impediment. Upon interacting with this family for the first time by affirming one of their book choices, the little girl exclaims, “you talk funny!” Her mother instantly blushes, becomes visibly embarrassed, and tells her daughter that she is being rude and unkind. She profusely apologizes to Paula for her daughter’s behavior. Paula volunteers often at our elementary school and handles situations like this on a regular basis. Rather than becoming offended, she asks the little girl if she would like to know why. The little girl nods her head, whereupon Paula gently explains that she was in an accident when she was a little girl and was hit by a car. The mother is still very apologetic and quickly pays for her purchases and ushers her children out of the room.

Through this observation, I realized how quickly interactions like these can occur and how we need to be proactive and prepared in communicating through them. The mother reacted in a way that was based on how she was feeling in regards to her daughter’s comment, rather than responding in a way that treated the situation as a “teachable moment.” In order to make this communication more effective and affirming, this mother could have responded by telling her daughter that everyone speaks differently, just like people from different countries, who speak different languages, but that this is part of what makes us unique and beautiful as individuals: no two of us are the same.

The way this interaction was handled by her mother could have made the little girl to feel badly or as though she could not communicate her feelings based on her innocent observations. When we handle situations as such, rather than to take advantage of these opportunities to teach anti-bias perspectives, we punish and silence children’s communication and learning process. Instead, we need to cultivate a space in which children feel safe to express and communicate their feelings (Laureate Education, 2011).

Through this interaction, I realized that while I often strive to take advantage of “teachable moments” in my classroom, I have plenty of room for improvement. Often, in the context of a classroom full of five and six year olds, it is easy to ignore seemingly small interactions between students. However, I need to become even more intentional about immediately responding to these interactions in order to help build an anti-bias framework and understanding with my students. The perspective then becomes one of “consciously shifting my mind from the immediacy of the conversation to consider it from other perspectives” (Stephenson, 2009, p. 90).

References

Laureate Education, Inc. (2011). Strategies for working with diverse children: Communicating with young children. Baltimore, MD: Author

Stephenson, A. (2009). Conversations with a 2-year-old. YC: Young Children, 64(2), 90-95. Retrieved from the Walden Library using the Education Research Complete database. http://ezp.waldenulibrary.org/login?url=http://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&db=ehh&AN=37131016&site=ehost-live&scope=site